The only intelligence that matters is the ability to create the life, love, and relationship you truly want.
“Am I a monster?” “Is this just who I am?”
THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU
if you’ve ever asked yourself these questions or if
you’ve would love to articulate unapologetically
what you want in the bedroom but choke on your words.
You are brilliant, intelligent, and have a huge heart.
But when it comes to love, nothing you do seems to be enough.
This is for you if you keep having the same fights.
If you want connection but fear your vulnerability could be used against you.
If you haven't cried in front of another person in years.
You're not broken.
You're a man who was trained for almost everything except healthy relationships.
This is not for you you have a radically transparent,
deeply connected, loving relationship,
where the two of you are walking each other home
with joy, peace, love,
and sexiness.
WHY YOU NEED
TO READ THIS BOOK NOW
You can either have the difficult conversation now,
or you can have a disconnected marriage
and have difficult conversations later with divorce lawyers.
Neural pathways are reinforced every time you repeat a decision.
Whatever you reinforce today becomes harder to change tomorrow.
The cost compounds.
There’s always a price to pay.
Most people would rather complain about their love life than change it.
But you're not most people. Are you?
YOU WANT TO
feel loved without thinking, “if only she knew”,
listen to feedback without defending yourself,
apologise without it feeling like an admission of guilt,
sit with discomfort without needing to fix it,
be fully known without feeling exposed.
about Anna Shilina
author, coach, speaker
Love mastery is the name of my craft.
I'm yet to meet a human who isn't on the path of mastering love.
I make the invisible mathematics of love visible. So love stops feeling like a mystery we either win or lose, and starts being understood as a living intelligence we can listen to.
My dream is a world where couples stop turning on themselves and each other, and start turning toward each other. Where we stop asking "what's wrong with me?" or "what's wrong with you?" and start asking better questions: what is love trying to reveal here? What would love do now?
There was a lot of shouting in my home when I was young. It lit up a lifelong curiosity about love and relationships that never left me. I went on to build a security company with close to a thousand employees. I knew how to lead. I knew how to perform. What I couldn't figure out was love.
I did dozens of plant medicine ceremonies, countless meditation retreats, hundreds of hours of therapy. My self-awareness increased. So did my loneliness. I couldn't understand it. How could I know so much about myself and still keep repeating the same painful patterns?
The answer was not more awareness. Not more information. I needed intelligence. I needed Relating Intelligence. And because I couldn't find anything that helped me long-term, I designed it.
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